Communication is the bridge to maintain relationships, but many men feel that their wives are often unreasonable and unable to communicate. In fact, this is because they have no communication skills. So how to communicate feelings with their wives? Here are 5 communication tips.
1. Communication does not start from the moment of opening the mouth
Communication does not only convey Just verbal messages, but also body language, your facial expressions, will send a lot of messages to him. Do you sincerely want to communicate with him, and are you forcing yourself?
You thought you were hiding it well, but in fact he knew better than anyone else that you were still angry. Communication with emotions will naturally not have very good results.
2. The more communication, the better
Many people may think that the more communication there is, the fewer problems there will be between two people. In fact, for good communication, the most important thing is efficiency, not frequency.
If you are communicating with negative emotions. Communication will only become a way for you to attack each other. On the contrary, the more you communicate, the more you want to give up. Or it may lead you into a long quarrel and create a greater emotional rift.
3. Not all communication will bring the relationship closer
I don’t know if you have ever had such an experience. , there will be short communication with colleagues every day. You often meet up with some friends to have dinner and watch movies, but you don’t develop a deeper connection.
To put it bluntly, the most important thing to do with them is to talk about company gossip. Talk about interesting things from school, but don't tell each other your innermost thoughts.
In other words, when our communication lacks self-exposure, our communication will not enhance each other's feelings.
But when we communicate, we show the special meaning the other person has to us. This kind of communication can enhance the feelings and intimacy between us.
4. Not all problems can be solved through communication
In relationships, many people want to Find a universal method of communication.
However, the problems in relationships are ever-changing, and there is no one method that can be perfectly suitable for all situations. So instead of struggling to find the so-called universal communication method. It is better to think carefully about where the contradictions between you are when problems arise.
For example, it is the accumulation of problems that persist despite repeated admonitions, or a temporary emotional impulse.
Many times, the meaning of our communication does not lie in how to solve all problems. Rather, it makes our relationship closer in the process of communication and expressesto a state of mutual understanding and mutual tolerance.
In fact, the meaning of communication does not lie in how much you said today or how many solutions to problems you discussed.
It’s about whether you can better understand each other’s behavior through every communication. You are better able to consider issues from the other person's perspective. Maybe you are unable to empathize with many things. But at least through communication, you can be willing to spontaneously understand each other's inner world and learn to listen to each other's inner voices.
