Someone once asked me: Why does a girl obviously like her, but just doesn’t want to be with her? Could it be that I misunderstood the girl’s meaning? In fact, misunderstanding is not necessarily a misunderstanding. A girl likes you but is unwilling to date you. In fact, the core is that she has a crush on you, but you put too much pressure on her and she dare not talk to you. She After you talk about it, the results will not be good and it will cause trouble. So what should we do?
Why do you say not to chase girls?
This situation can actually be solved in two sentences. If you understand these two sentences thoroughly, then your pursuit of girls will be almost smooth sailing:
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1. Don’t let yourself feel that you are chasing her
How to understand these two sentences? In fact, in my opinion, when I meet a pretty good girl, I want to get along with her, right? I'm not chasing her, we just met, and I don't know her very well, and it's impossible to say I fell in love at first sight, and I just think she's pretty good now. Maybe she made me feel uncomfortable in the later process of getting along with her. So as we chatted, hey, I thought she was very boring, and then I don’t need to contact her anymore, right? Just take that. It is normal to treat them as zombie fans on WeChat.
But if you start to regard the process of contacting a girl as you getting along with her and interacting with her, then it is definitely wrong. At this time, you are a low-ranking girl and she is a high-ranking girl. If you maintain the mentality I just talked about, then you will basically succeed. However, many boys are too impatient when chasing girls. Sometimes they even start confessing their love to someone without even knowing their name or where they live. Doing so will only scare girls away.
If you think that I am chasing her, you will easily make two mistakes: < /p>
The first thing is that your mentality is not good, and your mind is full of thoughts about how to please her and how to care about her.
The second thing is your focus on gain and loss and control. The desire will be very strong because you feel that you are chasing her, so you will pay too much attention to what she says. You will do whatever she asks you to do. This is actually clear. It's just like being a licking dog for others.
Don’t worry about girls. If they have a crush on you at the beginning, then this kind of relationship will only have one result in the long run. The other party will be arrogant and feel that they have you, and there will be no challenge. , it just doesn’t feel fun anymore. So, when you feel that you are pursuing this girl and your selfishness is very important, then I suggest you let it go and never over-interpret a certain behavior of the girl, or a certain message or a certain expression. , or even anxiously confessing to a girl, these operations will only bring too much pressure to the girl. In the end, she will only say to you, otherwise we can still be friends.
2. Don’t let her think you are thereChase her
When you approach a girl, never let her feel that you are chasing her. You must tell yourself, Love itself is a two-way choice. I am just chatting with you to see if the two of us are compatible. I have never said anything must happen to you. If your behavior makes us happy, then I will do it directly. Let me tell you, if I think about your behavior, if I don't say anything, I will still alienate you, right?
What does this mean? This is the framework, brother, this is the most basic trait a man needs. To get along, we need to slowly understand each other and calm down our mentality. Master this, and there will be no girl you can't catch.
