Licking a dog, licking a dog, and licking until you have nothing left. Although you don’t really like it, and no one wants to be a dog licker, feelings are always a matter between two people. If you just kneel down and lick wishfully, this relationship will definitely not work out. . So how should boys avoid becoming lickers when chasing girls?

1. Moderate investment

< p> As mentioned above, the establishment of a relationship requires the willingness of both parties.

If you treat a girl well without thinking, resulting in an excessive imbalance of emotional investment, in the end not only will you not be able to win her heart, but you will also make the other person take it for granted, making your relationship unbalanced.

Therefore, when chasing girls, you must invest appropriately and know how to guide the balance of investment in order to establish a healthy love relationship.

2. Calm your mind

Missing the other person is also an emotional investment and an intangible investment. . You may not even understand the sexual orientation of the other person, but you have fantasized about the other person tens of thousands of times in your mind. Therefore, you will over-beautify the other person and be willing to become the other person's licking dog.

When you miss the other person too much, you will unconsciously fall into the Reacting Model. Reaction patterns make people look down on you and make you feel unattractive.

3. Don’t take the other person too seriously

When many boys are chasing girls, they always put the other person as the center, making themselves become the other person’s vassal, without themselves. life.

You must know that the most important thing in chasing a girl is attraction, and if you devote all of yourself to a girl, then what you are doing is catering to the girl, which is unattractive.

Therefore, if a boy pursues a girl and does not want to become a bitch, he must understand these two principles:

(1) She is a girl, not a goddess

Watanabe Junichi also wrote in "This Thing of Women": The essence of love is a sense of tension. Every passionate love is a god-making exercise. When you love her, she stands in the center of the stage and shines. But too much is not enough, and some students have such an inferiority complex that they have a knee-jerk mentality.

Call the girl you like a "goddess". What you fall in love with is not even the girl herself, but the perfect female character that is a combination of your own imagination and imagination. Because he imagined the other person so perfectly, every move he made was cautious.

(2) If you bloom, butterflies will come.

Don’t regard blindly giving and moving the other person as a means to pursue the other person. Say good morning and good night at the scheduled time every day, greetings and greetings, hugging a humble heartIn your heart, you satisfy all the demands of the other person; this can only turn yourself into a spare tire, not a boyfriend.

In the process of pursuit, it is understandable to be considerate to the other person, but girls will not choose you because of a single move, they will only treat you as a worthless licking dog.

The essence of love is the matching of values. Turning the focus back to yourself and thinking about what qualities you have that can attract the opposite sex is the key to avoiding being a bitch and chasing the other person.